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The True Source of Confidence
The evidence of self-worth.
Confidence doesn’t come from ego or arrogance — it arises from having the freedom to make choices in your life.
Think back to raising children, giving them opportunities to choose, even for small things like food preferences, fostering a sense of autonomy and self-assurance.
Many people grow up feeling like they don’t have choices at all.
They believe following a rigid structure will lead to recognition and validation, not realizing that making choices for yourself is a fundamental component of building true confidence.
In heated moments, intense feelings can seem overwhelming and paralyzing.
But ask yourself: “A week from now, which will matter more — indulging this anxious feeling or choosing to focus on what’s important?” Separate passing emotional storms from the bigger picture.
To prepare for tough choices:
• Get clear on your core values and priorities — For me, that means I don’t look at choice as compromising but prioritize.
• Weigh the potential outcomes objectively
• Have a mindfulness practice to center yourself
