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Does It Hurt?
Navigating Victimhood and Finding Empowerment
Does it hurt?
That depends…
What do you mean by pain?
What is your attitude toward change?
I found that when I was in an unhealthy state of mind, I would seek deficiency in others. I would get frustrated when I shared my pain with others, and they didn’t have the capacity to “feel my pain.”
This would create a deeper sense of isolation, and in turn, I felt like no one understood what I was going through.
But in truth, I was stuck.
I wasn’t able to see that I was the only one who could get myself to reframe what I was seeing. I was the only one who could collect the fragmented pieces of myself and put them back together.
Kintsugi, an ancient Japanese practice, involves repairing broken ceramics with gold, transforming them into something stronger and more exquisite. We apply this philosophy to fortify mental wellness frameworks, enabling individuals to embrace their imperfections and discover beauty in their journey of growth instead of succumbing to adversity.
It feels good to feel sorry for myself.
Slavoj Žižek says we fall in love with our suffering.
Some of us feel that our suffering gives us…
